Men and women religious feel shame for failures on abuse

By Robin Gomes

“We ask pardon of all for our failures and repeat that we stand with the  Holy  Father. We  commit  our  efforts  to  working   with  him  so  that  the Church  can move  forward  in  a  coherent,  credible  and  unified  way,  a  way  that  is  genuinely healing, truly renewed, with new eyes to see and new ears to hear."

The International Union of Superiors General (UISG), which brings together the superiors general of institutes of Catholic women religious, and the Union of Superiors General (USG) that brings heads of men’s religious institutes, issued a joint declaration on Tuesday expressing their full support for the Meeting on the Protection of Minors, called for by Pope Francis.

Children - most vulnerable

“In our work as religious, we come across many situations where children are abused, neglected,  maltreated and unwanted,” the religious superiors wrote.   “We see child soldiers;  the trafficking of minors;  the sexual abuse of minors; the physical and emotional abuse of minors.  They cry out to us.”   

As adults, as Christians  and  as  religious they said they “want  to  work  so  that  their  lives  are  changed and that the situations in which they are brought up are improved.”

They underscored the vulnerability of these children which they said makes them  “dispensable, to be used and abused.” 

Abuse of authority

The religious superiors noted that the Feb . 21-24 meeting will focus on the abuse of minors by people of authority in the Church, especially bishops, priests and religious, a story, they said, is full of pain "that has continued for decades".   

"We  bow  our  heads  in  shame  at  the  realization  that such  abuse  has  taken  place in  our congregations  and  orders, and  in  our  Church."  “Our  shame  is  increased  by  our  own lack of  realization  of  what has been happening,” and those in authority “failed to see warning signs or failed to take them seriously.”

Change

The religious superiors acknowledge that 3-day Vatican meeting is a short time, but they expressed their trust in the power of the Holy Spirit that with the winds of change blowing through the Church and goodwill on all sides, important processes and structures of accountability can be started and those already in place can be reinforced. 

“The abuse of children is wrong anywhere and anytime: this point is not negotiable,” they emphasized.

Areas of work

Following the example of Pope Francis, the men and women religious commit themselves to "humbly acknowledge and confess the wrongs that have been done; to reach out to survivors; to learn from them how to accompany those who have been abused and how they wish” their stories be heard. 

The UISG and USG identified 3 areas where children are treasured and where their safety is promoted – in education and health care, in formation and in spirituality.

The many schools and hospitals that the religious orders run can ensure better protocols and higher standards of protection of minors. 

The protection of minors and adults can be integrated into the formation programme of religious institutes.  “It must be clear that whatever the culture and background, the abuse of children is never permitted or tolerable,” they stressed. 

The religious superiors also intend that their spirituality centres develop special outreach programmes to any survivor  who  wishes  to find help  in  their  struggles  with  faith  and  meaning.”  Even though some of the abuse victims would want to stay far from the Church, the religious would like to humbly accompany those survivors who want to make a journey of healing with them.

“Those who have been abused often carry a sense of guilt, shame and even sin.  In reality,  however, they are the ones who have been sinned against,”  the religious superiors said. 

Working, walking together

“We want to act with humility.  We want to see our blind spots. We want to name any abuse of power. We commit to engage in a journey with those we serve, moving forward with transparency and trust, honesty and sincere repentance.”

The heads of religious orders want to work with parents, especially mothers, in fighting abuse.    They acknowledged that their attempt to deal with abuse showed a “shameful lack of capacity to understand” their pain of the victims.  While offering them their sincerest apologies and sorrow, they invited them to work with them to help minimize risks.